Text c How to Argue
Text C How to Argue
Warm-up When you argue,what do you usually want? In which case is cooperation difficult? How do you help someone find out that they are wrong? What do you do if you don't want to hurt someone in arguing? How do you argue logically? How can you argue emotionally? Do you think that the suggestions of the author on arguing are applied to our Chinese culture?
Warm-up • When you argue, what do you usually want? • In which case is cooperation difficult? • How do you help someone find out that they are wrong? • What do you do if you don’t want to hurt someone in arguing? • How do you argue logically? • How can you argue emotionally? • Do you think that the suggestions of the author on arguing are applied to our Chinese culture?
outline cooperation is difficult when people dislike each other help people to find out the mistakes for themselves You may not hurt others by: ·arguing logically ·arguing emotionally
outline • cooperation is difficult when people dislike each other • help people to find out the mistakes for themselves • You may not hurt others by: • arguing logically • arguing emotionally
What do you really want?Do you want the satisfaction of proving that the other person is wrong and that you are right? How will he or she feel if you prove that they are wrong?They may admit that they are wrong but they won't like you for it. Does that matter?It isn't pleasant to be disliked;it isn't pleasant to be disliked;it isn't pleasant to dislike someone,and cooperation is difficult when people dislike each other. If you feel that someone is wrong and it is important for them that they find out, then help them to find out for themselves
What do you really want? Do you want the satisfaction of proving that the other person is wrong and that you are right? How will he or she feel if you prove that they are wrong? They may admit that they are wrong but they won’t like you for it. Does that matter? It isn’t pleasant to be disliked; it isn’t pleasant to be disliked; it isn’t pleasant to dislike someone, and cooperation is difficult when people dislike each other. If you feel that someone is wrong and it is important for them that they find out, then help them to find out for themselves
Don't let them lose their self-respect.Some people want to win an argument because they want to win,not because they are concerned with the actual idea! If you want to make your point and you really don't want to hurt the other person then: 1.Listen to what they are saying:both the obvious things and want they feel. 2.Try to find out if there are things you can both agree on,particularly important things rather than details.Keep on referring to the points you agree on. 3.Suggest that you meet again once the general ideas have been expressed.That will give you both time to calm down and to consider the argument more fairly
Don’t let them lose their self-respect. Some people want to win an argument because they want to win, not because they are concerned with the actual idea! If you want to make your point and you really don’t want to hurt the other person then: 1. Listen to what they are saying: both the obvious things and want they feel. 2. Try to find out if there are things you can both agree on, particularly important things rather than details. Keep on referring to the points you agree on. 3. Suggest that you meet again once the general ideas have been expressed. That will give you both time to calm down and to consider the argument more fairly